How To Lose Weight Through Stress Management

Is the secret to weight loss something that can be done without ever getting up from your chair?

I know it sounds weird. Let me explain.

You’re most likely reading this post because you’re tired of always trying to lose weight. You’ve got the gym membership. you know the diet, heck, you may even have all the foods stocked up in your fridge. Yet, something always gets in the way

Cravings, invitations to events where you don’t want to seem difficult, or even just boredom or a bad mood can come into play and mess up all your weight loss plans. Before you know it, those margaritas from happy hour on Thursday extended to a weekend bender that leaves you bloated and disappointed all over again.

You get mad at yourself for being “weak” and then resolve to start all over again…. on Monday.

Sound familiar?

I’ve been there and through my journey of talking about it, I’ve found that it’s extremely common for other people to go through it too.

But why?!?!

I genuinely thought it was about the food. I thought that there was just something about me that was hyper programmed to want to eat massive amounts of salty, sweet, and delicious (but ohhhhh so bad for you!) treats, but when I look back at what gets in the way… those cravings, invitations, or emotions…. it made me realize that I was wrong. DEAD wrong.

It doesn’t actually have much to do with the food itself and everything to do with what’s going on in your mind.

I know, I thought it was crazy too, but the more I thought about it, the more sense it made!

Weight loss comes from diet and exercise, but if you can’t get yourself to do it, how can you ever be successful? Every action comes from a thought first. Your thoughts talk to the cells in your body and tell it what to do and it doesn’t matter if you’re going vegan or paleo, taking dance classes or doing cross fit, if your thoughts don’t match your goals, your body won’t know how to get you there!

That’s why I focus with all my clients on stress management over weight loss.

We look at slowing down our thoughts, becoming aware of the story line that goes on in our mind, and then using specifically targeted mindset exercises to help shift that thinking from negative to positive.

The truth is, in order to be successful, you have to think successfully. It starts in your head and once you learn how to manage your thoughts, your health, happiness, and healing will naturally follow.

What do you think? How has your mindset impacted your journey? Comment below and share what you’re struggling with and what tools you’ve used to overcome it!

How To Maintain Motivation

It’s Monday.

You’re pumped with energy and ready for the week. You got everything together this weekend, making sure you had healthy food in the house, meals all prepped, and that the gym membership that you’ve been paying for (and not going to) for months was still active.

Motivation is just flowing through your veins as you go through the day, excited that surely, this will be the last time you ever have to start over.

Monday through Wednesday are great! You snuck a few m&m’s on Wednesday but that’s nothing compared to the king size bag you used to scarf down every day. That’s all in your past now.

But then, on Thursday, that cute coworker tells you that they’re all going out for happy hour after work and you should come.

Anxiety hits.

You brought your meal prep, but you’ve been working so hard all week and you really want to be social. In fact, it would be bad business not to go and one night out with coworkers couldn’t be that bad. You’ll just have one drink and jump right back to your diet tomorrow.

You go out and somehow, one margarita turns to three. Soon you’re splitting nachos and wondering if anyone is down to order another plate for the table.

The next morning, you wake up with a hangover and bloat.

You’d be happy to start over today, but you didn’t pack your lunch last night and all you can think about now is how good a cup of coffee and a piece of lemon cake from Starbucks would be. You’ll get a salad for lunch.

But then lunch comes around and the office ordered pizza to celebrate that it’s Friday. You think about your bank account and opt for the free lunch and gossip with your coworkers about last night’s escapades.

By the time you get home, you’re exhausted and opt to order Chinese food. It’s the weekend now and you’re absolutely beat. For sure, on Monday, you’ll start over one more time.

If this sounds like you, you’re not alone. In fact, this is the cycle most of us live in.

We start a new diet or exercise routine with gusto but soon, as external situations pop up, we lose motivation and fall off track.

Really, all we needed was to know was how to stay motivated, but instead, we let our goals fall to the wayside and put it off, just for one more weekend.

Enough is enough.

If you have goals that you want to hit, making the decision to hit them is the first step.

Second step is understanding why that goal is so important to you. What will dieting bring you? Weight loss to fit into your old jeans? Better health so you can heal your chronic illness? A calmer and more focused mind so you can excel at work? Whatever the end goal is, get clear on it and keep that image in your mind.

The third step is to surround yourself with motivation. According to Zig Ziglar “Motivation doesn’t last, but neither does bathing. That’s why we suggest it daily.” Fill up your social media feeds with pages that remind you of your mission, keep notes around your bedroom and office to keep you focused, bring yourself back to the reason for your goal as often as humanly possible.

By doing this every single day (multiple times a day) you are filling your brain with that motivation. Truth is, it’s in the action of constantly bringing it back to your attention that will keep you motivated, not the actual motivation itself.

Motivation is yours in abundance if you keep your mind on the goal. Position yourself for success and it’s yours for the taking!

How To Achieve At Anything

When I was a kid, I used to watch True Life on MTV.

Have you ever seen it? It’s this documentary show where they find 3 people who all share a common obstacle and then record their life as they struggle with it. The intention is to give viewers an insight into other people’s hidden struggles. For me, I just thought it was entertaining.

Some memorable episodes were “True Life: I have Epilepsy” and “True Life: My Parents are in Porn”, I mean honestly, this show had everything! But then one night, as I laid curled up on my couch in PJs, “True Life: I’m Going To Fat Camp” came on the screen.

I immediately turned the volume up. Three people were up to go to fat camp. One that really wanted it, one that was being forced to go by her family, and a third. I don’t remember much about the third, but I’ll never forget how emotional I got over the other two.

The one who wanted it, let’s call her Mary, saw fat camp as an opportunity. She worked her butt off just to get the money to be able to go and, when she got there, she utilized everything they had available to her. She saw fat camp as her path to better health and happiness and she wasn’t going to waste it for anything.

The second girl, again let’s make up a name - Jenna, didn’t want to go. She knew she needed to lose weight, but the idea of going to a fat camp upset her. Jenna wanted to do it on her own, even though she hadn’t been successful on her own, and her parents insisted she go. She was miserable and didn’t want to participate in anything at camp. She saw it as if it were a prison that she couldn’t stand to be in. She ended up sneaking out and getting candy bars with another girl and getting kicked out of camp.

I cheered at the TV when her parents had to come get her.

I tell you this story because these two girls both had the same goal and the same opportunities available to both of them, but only one had success. The only real difference between these two were their mindset, and that was the main driver of success versus failure.

You see, it doesn’t matter what you know or how much opportunity you have, it’s how to choose to use it. Every action comes from a thought first.

When you have a goal in mind, start to notice how you feel about that goal. Do you think you’ll hit it? Why or why not? Once you start to understand your thoughts around your goal, then you can start to shift your actions.

The opportunities, tools, tips and tricks are all available to you in abundance, but if your perspective sees them as negatives, then all you can get from the situation is negative.

If you want to find success in your journey, to achieve at anything, become aware of your mindset and start shifting your thoughts to gratitude and positivity. That energy will always lead you down the right path to health, healing, and happiness.

Because, True Life: Perspective Matters.

9 Things To Know If You're Newly Diagnosed

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Getting a diagnosis can change your life.

Suddenly, your life revolves around symptoms, medications, and doctors appointments. You feel scared, tired, and overwhelmed all at the same time with no clear exit.

Life as you know it changes completely.

Nine years ago, I was diagnosed with Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis and since then, nothing has been the same.

I’ve seen the dark side of this illness, but I’ve also discovered ways to find the light, and that’s what I want to share with anyone who’s struggling.

That’s why I made this infographic with my 9 things to know if you’re newly diagnosed. If you have anything to add or comments on how these tips helped you, please comment below and share with anyone reading!

With love & light,

Carolyn Rachel

Understanding Mindfulness (A Guide For Beginners)

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Mindfulness is a buzz word right now.

You hear it everywhere and you know it’s good for you, but there’s not much follow up on how to get started or why it’s important.

Essentially, theres a lack of mindfulness around the term mindfulness and we’re just gonna change that right now.

Mindfulness is AMAZING. Studies say it has effects that benefits our health in many different ways, including chronic illness managementanxiety, and even enhanced cognition, just to name a few!

It can help us heal, stabilize, and propel forward into a life we love and it’s simple, effective, and completely free to use.

So why isn’t everyone using it?

Again, there’s a lack of awareness of what mindfulness really is, so let’s start there.

What is mindfulness?

According to dictionary.com, there are two different (but similar) definitions for mindfulness:

“mind·ful·ness — ˈmīn(d)f(ə)lnəs/ — noun

  1. The quality or state of being conscious or aware of something. “their mindfulness of the wider cinematic tradition”

2. A mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.”

So basically, it’s a conscious decision to bring your attention to the present moment.

And it makes sense that we experience so many benefits from mindfulness because the activities that bring us to the present are what we seek the most…

Think about it. What makes you focus on the present?

For most of us, it’s activities like painting, playing an instrument, going to a festival, dancing, swimming, spending time in nature, heck, even putting on make up!

The things we love to do the most have a direct line to a mindful mind… you just have to be aware that you’re being mindful so you can get the full benefits of it.

If you like the idea but don’t know where to begin, don’t fret — this is the fun part!

Mindfulness comes from training yourself to be present. Meditation is the advanced version of this, but that’s a too much to start.

Pick an activity that you know you have to do daily. Maybe that’s doing the dishes or taking a walk. As you do it, make the intention beforehand to be present as much as possible during the activity. Notice the sights, smells, and sounds around you. Notice how you feel physically.

If your thoughts start to travel to anything else, don’t get mad… this is all practice (and you’re not in competition with anyone else!)

Just bring your attention back to the present. Doing that over and over again (yes, your thoughts will travel A LOT, it’s totally normal in the beginning) will strengthen your control over your brain, lower stress levels, and allow you to experience your life (instead of a perception of your life).

Mindfulness can benefit you in so many different ways and has ZERO negative side effects. You can choose to do it any time, you don’t need to carry anything, and no one can ever take it away from you.

It’s your power, and if you choose to use it, it may just change your life into exactly what you’ve always dreamed it to be. All you have to do is be mindful of your mindfulness and you can’t lose…

So the real question now is, when are you getting started?!